Sometimes nuggets of compassion from strangers catches you right in the feels.
It could be a throwaway comment, a glance and a smile or a gentle nod of ‘I get you’ before the moment passes and the crossing of paths continue.
Although few and far between these moments can give you a spur onwards when tiring from the ongoing effort of managing family life and the relentless need for continuity while offering encouragement during noisy, disruptive times when it can all feel a bit too much.
A look of support, a kind word or just ‘seeing us’ when out as a family can give us enough of a boost that sometimes we can feel supported without even interacting with anyone.
The truth is that the differences of having a child with disabilities to a family is immense and can make some of the most basic public tasks feel impossible.
While away at the beach Dylan screamed, cackled and splashed, immersed in his deep deep joy of the sea and finding a common ground enjoying the warm water with his siblings.
Josh came over to me on the waters edge and whispered to me “Mum, look; everyone’s looking” I turned to see everyone sitting upright on their lounges watching Dylans show. Josh and I smiled to each other as he rushed off to go back to play with his sister and noisy brother.
Those watching may have been judging his behaviour or disapproving of the disruption to their quiet sunbathing but it felt to me as if they were enjoying watching them have fun as much as I was.
To those who spread little gestures of kindness, thankyou. Thankyou for recognising and spreading understanding for families like mine.
Acceptance feels beautiful. Thankyou x